Pregnancy is a time in a woman’s life where you become selfless and very vulnerable I mean anything can happen, or if your anything like me you become empowered by the very fact that you are growing a whole new person…I’m gonna talk about this very experience giving birth to my fifth child. It was a well anticipated birth as I was not expecting to have anymore so when it happened I was gonna be in full control of this birth, I mean I’ve had many practice as this was my third home birth, I was gonna go all in with the mood, the tempo and most of all the after birth healing for my self and my .. new bundle of joy.
I had ordered the pool as I wanted a water birth this time, so all was set I had my playlist all set, I had sage the whole house (sage is a dry bundle of sage leaf that you burn and the smoke helps to rid the space of all sort of stale energy, negative and over reactive energy). The night before my contraction started but I knew it was just the continuation of the Braxton kicks that I had been having for the past few weeks, so nothing to worry too much about as I was burning some Frankincense resin I did notice that the smoke would help to ease the contraction and allowed me to fall asleep ready for the next day.
Her due date was the 18th on a Friday, for some strange reason I thought that it would have been on Wednesday and that she would arrived in the middle of the night. The day is Friday and the contraction started lightly It was then I remembered what I was to endure for the next day and I came into realization that I wanted this pain to stop as soon as I was not gonna drag this at all. I got my husband to set up the pool but he was reluctant being from the Caribbean water is only outside and not in the from room. so around 10 am the contraction where more consistent so I got into the yoga teacher mode and started my breathing control which was really helpful, then they got stronger so I got hold of the frankincense resin and burned it the smoked help to take the edge off like really takes it off. I then took advantage of calling the midwife to informed of the situation and then was told that my midwife had a holiday on that day and two community midwife were on they way, so I knew from then that I was on my own as I was not gonna put trust on two random individual , nah my life is not set up that way . Thankfully I was all about mind over matter as long as I was in control of my mind I was fine. Midwife finally arrived about time too I was done dealing with this pain alone I really needed the gas and air. As the midwife walk through I was in the kitchen on all four and using sound therapy by exhaling with the oo sound in a very high key which also help to alleviate the pain (well it was helping). So one midwife was setting up while the other was doing check up at the same time my husband was slowly filling up the tube like really taking his time …. with a question mark kind of look. Once the midwife had finished the check it was about noon and she had told me the worst news I was only 1 cm dilated “what!!” I said I mean all this pain and only 1 cm I had to be strategic as I was not gonna spend another 5 hours with such pain no way…to make matters worth I could not go in the water or have gas and air as I was just at the beginning I could have cried but that was too much wasted energy.
Right knowing my option I was gonna birth my girl asap so what I then did was to get on all four and rotate my hips, with every contraction I would squat and contract my abdominal muscle… yes it was so painful but with additional breathing control I was set and in a flow of my own… The midwife would ask me question as soon as contraction wold come butt I would ignore her until it was over she would be like “hello Katia are you okay???” like am just birthing my child and am in pain? what do you think? anywho I was on this flow for the next half hour which was amazing I would change position and get into yoga poses like the pigeon pose which is amazing for hip opening, the midwife would be confuse to what I was doing. It worked for me so I was not that bothered on judgement I did go from 5cm to 8cm in a space of 45 minutes yes result… the next 2 cm were really crucial I had my playlist playing in the back ground children humming, massaging my back on and off. I really zoned within and it really work the midwife checked after 20 minutes and she could see the crown she was in deep shocked as so I was the pain was coming to an end I could finally be me again run, jump and most of all sleep on belly again. I was in a full squat holding onto my sofa seat for balance doing the breath of fire which consist or fast breath in and out through the nose which help to control the pushing and pop went my princess on the flour well my yoga mat followed by a gush of water and all was over finally …. result. the midwife was trying to yank the placenta which I said pls don’t it is very sensitive she offered an injection to make it go fast but I was like no all natural and within few minute it was out. I was having a lotus birth which consist of keeping the placenta until it dry out and pop off all on its own. they were reluctant but go confirmation by the doctor. baby was weight and wiped and given onto my mother so ran up to my bathroom and had a well deserved hot bath which was so well deserved. I was then ready for a brand new journey I had my meal and by 2pm they were all ready and pack up but left after 3pm . what an achievement I really could not have done any better with no form of assistance no pain easer just the breath and the mind working together anything is possible.